Break Down… Then Break Through

I remember someone telling me in the past that, “It’s ok to break down some times because we are only humans.” And as for me, I can really attest to that because personally, I’ve really broken down several times due to problems either emotional, financial, spiritual, etc. But you might be wondering as to what keeps me going? Well, there are several factors which I’m going to share with all of you.


My Faith in God

One huge factor that really fuelled me to keep fighting and moving forward is my faith. As a Christian, I keep reminding myself that I have to be stronger than my fears and problems and that my Father in Heaven is bigger than all my struggles in life. Is it hard? definitely! It’s tough fighting your thoughts because it makes you doubt, and you tend to worry more. It’s hard getting over your fears because it makes you question if you can really do it. And it’s tough finding solution to your problems because your mind is corrupted with all of that negativity that’s going on in your life. But like what I said, I’m thankful that I was equipt with God’s word in my mind and my heart, that in times like I feel like giving up, I talk to God and begged him to help me get over my thoughts and fight it. I must admit, I’ve felt like giving up several times but I’m always reminded by God that you can give up and feel down, but you shouldn’t quit and just keep standing. The fact that you are alive, breathing and see the sun when you wake up in the morning is a blessing and a great reminder that we should keep fighting because we still have a purpose in this earth we are living in. That’s why during the dark times in my life and when I break down, I talk to God and share with Him what i’m going through at that moment and seek for enlightenment and motivation to keep going and He never fails. And with that, I can say that I am blessed to know God with the help of Achi Gigi Rios, my afternoon devotion leader, who taught me more about God and lead me to Christianity because she guided me and my friends everytime we have our afternoon devotion once a week, and she makes sure to inspire us and answer our questions to further strengthen our faith, and aside from that, Achi Gigi also gave me my very first bible which I still have. So if you’ll ask me, it is very important to strengthen our faith in God by attending church service every Sunday and listen to God’s word and also read the Bible to have your own quiet time with Him which can develop your relationship with God.

My Family

I remember the time that I was going through depression and I was really at lost, I don’t even know who talk too and who can help me in my problems. But God was amazing because He redirected me to my core which is my family, particularly my mom. She just lends her shoulder to me one morning and I felt like my problem was solved right away because I have her by my side and I know that I will be able to surpass whatever it is that’s causing my depression. She just told me to find my niche and be able to find that happiness within me again. My mom just inspired me to stand up and try again, when I was at that point in my life that I want to give up and was totally broken, but she challenged me and motivated me to keep fighting and just move forward. That’s when I realize how important it is for us to treasure our family and have constant communication with them because in times of troubles or during tough times they will be there and they will help you no matter what because they are your family. So never be afraid or be shy to be open with your family because when others are gone or maybe left you, they won’t leave you because they are there for you, forever.

My Friends

In life, you will meet people who will stand by you and stick with you like a brother or sister and they are your friends. And I am truly blessed to have a lot of them in my life, maybe not all of them are as close as the others but definitely, I treasure all of my friends. During my depression period, I actually stayed away from my friends because I don’t want them to see my lowest point and I don’t want them to feel that I am not doing well at that time. But like what I said, they stick closer like a true sibling that’s why when I wasn’t really doing well some of them felt it and comforted me during those time. They also respected my silence because I really don’t want to share my problems or what I am going through and just stayed with me and cheered me up and motivated me to keep fighting. Some even went the extra mile to take me out when I was ready to go out and mingle again because honestly at that point I wasn’t ready to face anyone and I can’t even talk without crying that’s why I just kept quiet. But one thing that I am thankful for to my friends is that they stayed with me through good times and even the bad times that’s why I am very much grateful to have them in my life. But remember, not all people in your life are true and real so be sure to choose your friends properly, make sure that they influence you by bringing out the best and the good in you and not the other way around, and make sure that when you finally have those real friends in your life treasure them because they are rare and hard to find.


What’s my point:

So why did I share about my faith in God, my family, and my friends, well because they played a huge part in my life especially during the tough times and that’s why I kept going and never give up. In this crazy world, we are living in we may be pre-occupied with a lot of stuff that distracts us and allows us to question why is this happening to me? why do I have to carry this burden? why am I being punished despite the fact that I am doing good things in my life? and a lot more questions that go through our minds. But remember this, “God gives the toughest battles to his strongest soldiers” Matthew 5:10. So instead of giving up right away, don’t be afraid to break down and cry coz that’s normal and it is ok not to be ok at times we are only human. Surviving trials is the best test of our faith in God because we never forget His promise that He will never leave us nor forsake despite our shortcomings and our failures because God loves us all. We may not understand it now but remember that all of this will end someday and we will reap the rewards if we stand strong in our faith and that’s why we have our family to be with us during those times that we can’t figure out on how to resolve our problems, and we also have our friends to whom we can share too and seek help if needed but let’s not forget that they have their own trials too so if they begged off to help us accept it and respect them. And never ever lose hope because we will all have our time to shine and be able to savor the success God has prepared and destined for each and every one of us. Just be patient, Marke My Word.

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When They Say You Can’t, Show Them That You Can

Hello there readers, how are you all doing? I hope that you are all doing great just like me. It’s been a week since I was able to write about my last blog which is “Shoe Them What You Got”, and I’ve been busy since that day. I’m glad to be able to write again and maybe inspire some of you not just in my home country the Philippines but also all over the world, let me show it to you.

Was there a time in your life that you doubted yourself because someone told you that you cannot do it? Or maybe you lose your self-esteem because you failed on your first try to do something that you love doing, which made you stop from trying again? Does it end there for you or should you try again some other time? Well, take it from me, you shouldn’t give up on the first try, second, third or even more, because it shouldn’t end there, you know why? Let me explain further and share my personal experience.

Always be positive just like a proton. Yes, that’s so true, we should always be optimistic despite failing and it shouldn’t stop us from moving forward and to try again. Why? Because you will never know your capabilities, your strengths, and even your weaknesses if you give up right away. Failing should just challenge us and not make us quit. It is through this unnecessary situation that we will be able to learn from our mistakes in life, it is through failure that we will be able to discover new things about ourselves, and through this we gain confidence.

I remember, there was a time I doubted myself from reaching my dreams because I wasn’t able to go to my dream school which is Ateneo or La Salle. Since I was young, I told myself that I should only get into these two schools when I reached college, but sadly I wasn’t able to do so. Did it stop me from reaching my dreams? No, because while I was studying at Centro Escolar University in Manila where I took up A.B. Mass Communication major in Broadcast, a professor told us that in real life or outside world, where you graduated shouldn’t define who you are and what you can do. It’s your skills, your knowledge, and your passion that will prove your worth to any company that would accept you.

Was it easy peasy? Sadly No, because in reality especially here in the Philippines, applying for a job even if you are a graduate of a 4-year course isn’t a walk in the park, just like what I personally experience. I remember the time when I applied for a job at a company that I dreamed of getting into because who wouldn’t want to fly for free right? Well, going back to my experience, the only reason I remember that they told me why I wasn’t accepted, alongside other applicants was that I am overweight or fat for the position. Ouch right? But I didn’t apply for an F.A. position (I wish) it is only for a ground position or office-based, but I was judge right away because of what I look like and not what I can do. But instead of dwelling on that not so good experience, it motivated me to be better physically and mentally and molded me to who I am now Mark Joven version 3.2 (coz I’m now 32 years old).

So, maybe you are all wondering if I end up having the job that I really wanted, my answer is NO. I really wanted to work in a media company or in an advertising company, but due to lack of job vacancies during the high time of my applications, I end up just finding a job. Well, I’m a little bit disappointed because I wanted to prove to everyone around me that I can reach my dreams despite the fact that I wasn’t able to enter into my dream school/university and prove my professor right that no matter what school you end up with and finish your studies, you can reach your dream job and company. But after several years of working in small companies, after several job applications, after several job offers, and after several transfers to different companies, I realized something that if opportunities that you like don’t knock on you, do not be discouraged.

Maybe you are destined to do bigger things, maybe you are meant for a different path, and maybe you should be the one who should create your own opportunity, not just for yourself but also for others who needed some motivation and encouragement. What am I trying to point out? Well, I mean create your own opportunity, start your own business, maybe you can also do a partnership with your family or loved ones, or maybe try to build your own career in different platforms such as social media or other multimedia, there’s a lot of them nowadays. And it’s all up to you! And when others tell you that you can’t because you are just like this and you’re just like that, and you should just keep yourself in a box, prove them wrong. Show them that you can do it and you will do it, not for them but for those who believe in you and your capabilities, because you are special and you are more than what you are right now. Don’t let anyone look down on you and what you can do, because they don’t know you and they can’t judge you. Don’t let them and never allow them to belittle you because they will succeed and you will be defeated, instead prove them wrong and show them what God has given you, i’m talking about your skills and talents, you have your own calling and purpose, just keep looking and you will find your niche, Marke My Word.

Just want to share what I am currently doing, just you guys are interested, I am working for a private company, managing my small business Joven’s Oven, I am a Sunday School teacher at Grace Christian Church of the Philippines, I write blogs (hopefully soon do my vlogs), I do some hosting of gatherings and events, and my favorite of them all which I hope can be my “job” or someone can hire me to do it regularly and get paid, is to travel the Philippines and the world. Please, can someone hire me to do that? hehe