When Life Shuts A Door… Open It Again

Good day to all of you readers and I hope you’re doing great wherever you are right now. Where you able to read my last blog entitled “When They Say You Can’t, Show Them That You Can”? Well, I hope you did and I have inspired 1 of you, which is my ultimate goal. Just like this new blog which I’m gonna share to all you. Let’s inspire each other, okay?

Was there a moment in your life where a door was shut close right in front of you? Where you offended and started slamming the door to open, or you felt humiliated and just walk away? Well, in that situation how should we react and what’s the best thing to do? I guess, it all depends on the situation and the reason. Let’s me write down some situations I personally experience where I felt door/s was shut for me and how I dealt with it.


There’s this company, which I was really hoping to get in, and I made sure that I will present myself in my utmost best every time I step into their beautiful and amazing office. When I applied online through a job-hunting website (I don’t know if you call it that way) I was thrilled to receive a call and a text message that I was invited for an initial interview for the position I was really eyeing for, and I told myself that I should keep calm and be ready for it because it will be happening the next day. So here I was, early for the call time and ready for the initial assessment that day, and once the HR staff called me inside a room for the interview, my heart was beating fast, as fast as my “ex” left me hehe. Kidding aside, as the interview was ongoing I was very optimistic that I will pass this initial process and move on, which surprisingly I did. Lucky me, right? And as I was scheduled for another interview which was the final or last step, I was both happy and nervous because I’m almost there in reaching my dream company with a job that I would love to do.

As the day of the final interview was there in front me, my knees were shaking as I step into the room for the final panel interview. Was this a thesis defense? Nah it’s just the interview, and as it was going smoothly and I already reached the last question, I answered it confidently with a heart. And just like any other job applications, the waiting game is on. Few days after, a week almost pass, there’s still no feedback and at the back of my mind I said, it was a NO. So to make things clearer for me, I made a follow-up and I was expecting for a NO answer but sadly it didn’t happen. To my surprise, the reason I didn’t hear from them on the said date they promised, it’s because the company decided to cancel the position opened and decided to get someone internally. What a lame excuse right? I wasted my money going here and there and a lot more. And honestly, I had a hard time sending my applications again after that because it didn’t happen just once, not even twice, or thrice, well it happened several times. Doors of opportunities keep shutting down on me, and I was feeling devastated week after week after week. But after quite some time I was able to move on and try again.

Business Opportunity

There came a point in my life that I felt working on corporate setting isn’t really for me. I felt the rejection one after another pulled me down and took away my confidence. So instead of dwelling on it, I felt that I have to move on and open my eyes in a different direction and re-direct my path into a new path which is having my own business.

At first, I thought if you have money business will just be like a walk in the park, but that wasn’t the case for me. And besides, I don’t have much funds during that time and all I have a small amount of money to start this new venture. Aside from that, it’s a one man show on my case, I have to conceptualize the business from scratch, I have to do the marketing, I have to do everything on my own.

I thought of reselling items, I thought of coming up with my own creations, but I end up selling foods that I personally love to cook and share with my family and friends. Since cooking baked macaroni and lasagna was my winning dishes, I started with those two items on my menu list and as times goes by it has to evolve and new dishes should be added. Though it wasn’t easy starting from scratch because I don’t have much funds and I don’t know if other people will appreciate it and enjoy the dishes that I cook, but gladly people welcomed me with an open arms with my business venture and it’s almost 3 years since I started my business Joven’s Oven (check my Facebook Page and Instagram Account). Thankfully my business is surviving and has its own followers and loyal customers and hopefully it will last a lifetime, because it uplifts me when people appreciate the food I prepare and getting those feedbacks gives me the encouragement to keep going and I will.

So remember this, if one door closes, it’s not the end for you and you should not feel hopeless. If he first door that you think will open up for you and welcome you freely, then it turned out to be the other way around, don’t be sad right away maybe it’s the wrong door. And remember that there are a lot of doors for you to open if you will just continue seeking and continually knocking until you find it. Keep knocking and opening doors of opportunities until you find the right one for you, He has BIG plans for you.

Break Down… Then Break Through

I remember someone telling me in the past that, “It’s ok to break down some times because we are only humans.” And as for me, I can really attest to that because personally, I’ve really broken down several times due to problems either emotional, financial, spiritual, etc. But you might be wondering as to what keeps me going? Well, there are several factors which I’m going to share with all of you.

My Faith in God

One huge factor that really fuelled me to keep fighting and moving forward is my faith. As a Christian, I keep reminding myself that I have to be stronger than my fears and problems and that my Father in Heaven is bigger than all my struggles in life. Is it hard? definitely! It’s tough fighting your thoughts because it makes you doubt, and you tend to worry more. It’s hard getting over your fears because it makes you question if you can really do it. And it’s tough finding solution to your problems because your mind is corrupted with all of that negativity that’s going on in your life. But like what I said, I’m thankful that I was equipt with God’s word in my mind and my heart, that in times like I feel like giving up, I talk to God and begged him to help me get over my thoughts and fight it. I must admit, I’ve felt like giving up several times but I’m always reminded by God that you can give up and feel down, but you shouldn’t quit and just keep standing. The fact that you are alive, breathing and see the sun when you wake up in the morning is a blessing and a great reminder that we should keep fighting because we still have a purpose in this earth we are living in. That’s why during the dark times in my life and when I break down, I talk to God and share with Him what i’m going through at that moment and seek for enlightenment and motivation to keep going and He never fails. And with that, I can say that I am blessed to know God with the help of Achi Gigi Rios, my afternoon devotion leader, who taught me more about God and lead me to Christianity because she guided me and my friends everytime we have our afternoon devotion once a week, and she makes sure to inspire us and answer our questions to further strengthen our faith, and aside from that, Achi Gigi also gave me my very first bible which I still have. So if you’ll ask me, it is very important to strengthen our faith in God by attending church service every Sunday and listen to God’s word and also read the Bible to have your own quiet time with Him which can develop your relationship with God.

My Family

I remember the time that I was going through depression and I was really at lost, I don’t even know who talk too and who can help me in my problems. But God was amazing because He redirected me to my core which is my family, particularly my mom. She just lends her shoulder to me one morning and I felt like my problem was solved right away because I have her by my side and I know that I will be able to surpass whatever it is that’s causing my depression. She just told me to find my niche and be able to find that happiness within me again. My mom just inspired me to stand up and try again, when I was at that point in my life that I want to give up and was totally broken, but she challenged me and motivated me to keep fighting and just move forward. That’s when I realize how important it is for us to treasure our family and have constant communication with them because in times of troubles or during tough times they will be there and they will help you no matter what because they are your family. So never be afraid or be shy to be open with your family because when others are gone or maybe left you, they won’t leave you because they are there for you, forever.

My Friends

In life, you will meet people who will stand by you and stick with you like a brother or sister and they are your friends. And I am truly blessed to have a lot of them in my life, maybe not all of them are as close as the others but definitely, I treasure all of my friends. During my depression period, I actually stayed away from my friends because I don’t want them to see my lowest point and I don’t want them to feel that I am not doing well at that time. But like what I said, they stick closer like a true sibling that’s why when I wasn’t really doing well some of them felt it and comforted me during those time. They also respected my silence because I really don’t want to share my problems or what I am going through and just stayed with me and cheered me up and motivated me to keep fighting. Some even went the extra mile to take me out when I was ready to go out and mingle again because honestly at that point I wasn’t ready to face anyone and I can’t even talk without crying that’s why I just kept quiet. But one thing that I am thankful for to my friends is that they stayed with me through good times and even the bad times that’s why I am very much grateful to have them in my life. But remember, not all people in your life are true and real so be sure to choose your friends properly, make sure that they influence you by bringing out the best and the good in you and not the other way around, and make sure that when you finally have those real friends in your life treasure them because they are rare and hard to find.

What’s my point:

So why did I share about my faith in God, my family, and my friends, well because they played a huge part in my life especially during the tough times and that’s why I kept going and never give up. In this crazy world, we are living in we may be pre-occupied with a lot of stuff that distracts us and allows us to question why is this happening to me? why do I have to carry this burden? why am I being punished despite the fact that I am doing good things in my life? and a lot more questions that go through our minds. But remember this, “God gives the toughest battles to his strongest soldiers” Matthew 5:10. So instead of giving up right away, don’t be afraid to break down and cry coz that’s normal and it is ok not to be ok at times we are only human. Surviving trials is the best test of our faith in God because we never forget His promise that He will never leave us nor forsake despite our shortcomings and our failures because God loves us all. We may not understand it now but remember that all of this will end someday and we will reap the rewards if we stand strong in our faith and that’s why we have our family to be with us during those times that we can’t figure out on how to resolve our problems, and we also have our friends to whom we can share too and seek help if needed but let’s not forget that they have their own trials too so if they begged off to help us accept it and respect them. And never ever lose hope because we will all have our time to shine and be able to savor the success God has prepared and destined for each and every one of us. Just be patient, Marke My Word.

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When They Say You Can’t, Show Them That You Can

Hello there readers, how are you all doing? I hope that you are all doing great just like me. It’s been a week since I was able to write about my last blog which is “Shoe Them What You Got”, and I’ve been busy since that day. I’m glad to be able to write again and maybe inspire some of you not just in my home country the Philippines but also all over the world, let me show it to you.

Was there a time in your life that you doubted yourself because someone told you that you cannot do it? Or maybe you lose your self-esteem because you failed on your first try to do something that you love doing, which made you stop from trying again? Does it end there for you or should you try again some other time? Well, take it from me, you shouldn’t give up on the first try, second, third or even more, because it shouldn’t end there, you know why? Let me explain further and share my personal experience.

Always be positive just like a proton. Yes, that’s so true, we should always be optimistic despite failing and it shouldn’t stop us from moving forward and to try again. Why? Because you will never know your capabilities, your strengths, and even your weaknesses if you give up right away. Failing should just challenge us and not make us quit. It is through this unnecessary situation that we will be able to learn from our mistakes in life, it is through failure that we will be able to discover new things about ourselves, and through this we gain confidence.

I remember, there was a time I doubted myself from reaching my dreams because I wasn’t able to go to my dream school which is Ateneo or La Salle. Since I was young, I told myself that I should only get into these two schools when I reached college, but sadly I wasn’t able to do so. Did it stop me from reaching my dreams? No, because while I was studying at Centro Escolar University in Manila where I took up A.B. Mass Communication major in Broadcast, a professor told us that in real life or outside world, where you graduated shouldn’t define who you are and what you can do. It’s your skills, your knowledge, and your passion that will prove your worth to any company that would accept you.

Was it easy peasy? Sadly No, because in reality especially here in the Philippines, applying for a job even if you are a graduate of a 4-year course isn’t a walk in the park, just like what I personally experience. I remember the time when I applied for a job at a company that I dreamed of getting into because who wouldn’t want to fly for free right? Well, going back to my experience, the only reason I remember that they told me why I wasn’t accepted, alongside other applicants was that I am overweight or fat for the position. Ouch right? But I didn’t apply for an F.A. position (I wish) it is only for a ground position or office-based, but I was judge right away because of what I look like and not what I can do. But instead of dwelling on that not so good experience, it motivated me to be better physically and mentally and molded me to who I am now Mark Joven version 3.2 (coz I’m now 32 years old).

So, maybe you are all wondering if I end up having the job that I really wanted, my answer is NO. I really wanted to work in a media company or in an advertising company, but due to lack of job vacancies during the high time of my applications, I end up just finding a job. Well, I’m a little bit disappointed because I wanted to prove to everyone around me that I can reach my dreams despite the fact that I wasn’t able to enter into my dream school/university and prove my professor right that no matter what school you end up with and finish your studies, you can reach your dream job and company. But after several years of working in small companies, after several job applications, after several job offers, and after several transfers to different companies, I realized something that if opportunities that you like don’t knock on you, do not be discouraged.

Maybe you are destined to do bigger things, maybe you are meant for a different path, and maybe you should be the one who should create your own opportunity, not just for yourself but also for others who needed some motivation and encouragement. What am I trying to point out? Well, I mean create your own opportunity, start your own business, maybe you can also do a partnership with your family or loved ones, or maybe try to build your own career in different platforms such as social media or other multimedia, there’s a lot of them nowadays. And it’s all up to you! And when others tell you that you can’t because you are just like this and you’re just like that, and you should just keep yourself in a box, prove them wrong. Show them that you can do it and you will do it, not for them but for those who believe in you and your capabilities, because you are special and you are more than what you are right now. Don’t let anyone look down on you and what you can do, because they don’t know you and they can’t judge you. Don’t let them and never allow them to belittle you because they will succeed and you will be defeated, instead prove them wrong and show them what God has given you, i’m talking about your skills and talents, you have your own calling and purpose, just keep looking and you will find your niche, Marke My Word.

Just want to share what I am currently doing, just you guys are interested, I am working for a private company, managing my small business Joven’s Oven, I am a Sunday School teacher at Grace Christian Church of the Philippines, I write blogs (hopefully soon do my vlogs), I do some hosting of gatherings and events, and my favorite of them all which I hope can be my “job” or someone can hire me to do it regularly and get paid, is to travel the Philippines and the world. Please, can someone hire me to do that? hehe

Shoe Them What You Got

During our visit to Toronto, Canada, one of the places we visited was Bata Shoe Museum. And for a shoe lover like me, coz I have a “few” pairs of shoes at home”, I was really curious of what we can see at this museum. I may not be able to visit many museums that often, but given the chance I am really enjoying it because I can learn something from history and at the same time appreciate the beauty of the particular item I can see in the museum.

So going back to Bata Shoe Museum, like what is stated on their website http://www.batashoemuseum.ca “for every shoe there’s a story…” I do believe in that after seeing the different shoes we saw at this wonderful museum. From shoes that you can use during winter time, shoes in Chinese era, shoes during the beginning of times to the shoes of today, from the most unusual design and to the most expensive one, and a lot more. Here are some of them.

It’s amazing right? Well actually there’s a lot more. And from all of them I found something that I really hope that I can have someday. Aside from the fact that’s one of my dream shoe brand, its also something that I want to wear and I believe what I can wear. Because for me, as long as you are comfortable and you want something, you can slay it. Look at my pick from all of the amazing shoes.

Who wouldn’t want a pair of this Christian Louboutin shoes right? How I hope and wish someone can send me this pair (dream big and wish bigger than your dreams if you can).

Every shoe has its own story to tell, whether from the history of the shoes as why it crafted, or even for whom the shoes was designed for, and also your personal story of your own pair of shoes and its sentimental value. Just like the story of Manolo Blahnik, we were lucky enough to see his showroom of shoes that he designed was exhibited during that time at the Bata Shoe Museum. And I must say, the designs are really outstanding and beautiful and its a dream come true for any girl or lady to have, just look at this photos and look at my friend Marci as well.

Just a thought:

Does the shoes that we wear defines who we are, or can it even tell our story? Well, for me it doesn’t matter how beautiful our shoes are, how expensive it is or even how cheap we are able to get it; how unique your shoes is, or how exclusive you were able to get it from a designer store, if we will only take the shortcut, and even step into someone else’s foot to reach the top or where we are in our lives at the moment. Because I believe, the best success story we can have, is when we are able to gain lessons from the challenges we face from the path we have taken just to reach our goal/s in life. And from there we are able to experience the good and bad, the highs and lows of life; from there we can gain life lessons on how to be strong even when we are weak, how to be tough when we are about to give up, and never to lose hope even during the darkest times of our lives. And from there we can inspire the people around us; and when you stumble stand up slowly and when we are brought down to our knees it’s not for us to give up but a time for us to pray. Shoe them what you got, shoe that what you are made of, and shoe them that you can and you will, Marke My Word.

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Get Knocked Down…Fight Back Gently

Hello again everyone! It feels so good to write a blog because it’s one way, for me, to release all the stress away. At the same time it is my way of giving back, by inspiring others through my personal experience in good times and bad times and how I get through it all. So I hope you can spread the word about my blog and follow me, leave a comment (good and bad are welcome), and your thoughts as well, thank you. So let me start and fight back! 🙂

Is fighting back good or bad? Well, it depends on the reason why you are doing it, that’s just my opinion. Because there are times in our lives that we are hit badly with problems and situations that triggers us to our limits. How do we react? How do we get even? Should we feel down? I’m pretty sure that all of us will have a different way of taking this situation, and also have our own ways of handling it. But of course what I’m gonna share is something I experienced personally and how I handled the situation and fought back.

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During a time in my life that I nearly lost everything I have (monetary), and no one knew about it because I never told anyone, coz why should I felt it’s not worth sharing. Aside from that, no one felt that I have a problem because despite my current situation you will never see it in my face and in my actions. I guess I’m a pretty good actor right? Want to see my acting skills? I encourage you to visit my Tiktok account, see my videos and you be the judge how good I am haha (Tiktok: marky_joven). But kidding aside, I never told anyone because I’m the cheerful person everyone knows, I’m the happy pill that cracks jokes most of the time, I’m the optimistic guy who sees the good in the bad, and I’m the problem solver to anyone who knows me. So during the time that I was, and at times that I still am facing troubles, I try to find solution and keep it to myself, but one thing I’m sure of and that is I am never alone, which I constantly remind myself. Because I know that my FAITH is bigger than my fears and problems, and I hold on to God’s promise to trust in Him that He will not leave me nor forsake me and He will help me get through it.

So when I was facing adversity, I made sure to hold on to God’s promise and His word was my strength and my motivation to keep moving forward and never stumble.

I must admit during the time that I was knocked down with problems because I was blinded with superficial love, which I thought would complete me, but I was wrong. Yes, I was wrong, because the cause of my fall eventually neglected me as if I’m no one, how sad right? That’s life, and my advice, learn not to expect that promises will be fulfilled because in the end you will just be left hanging by the thread. (Boom! hehe) Maybe for the person or people who made those promises already thought in their lazy mind that they made you a promise already, and it will be too much for them to fulfill it, and on our end let’s not be abusive to think and expect them to make those promises come true.

But going back, because I reached the point that I lost everything and I was already doubting myself that I can still stand up from where I am that time. It was really tough, because I don’t want anyone to know about my situation and let others feel that there’s something wrong, because I was acting brave and I wanted to be alone. I totally forgot that I have my parents, my family, my friends, loved ones and other real people in my life that doesn’t need anything from me to love me back and see my importance. But those people who used me, those just who needs me and recognise me and my importance when they need something, well they never care with what’s happening, which broke my heart. But I’m still thankful to them because of what they did to me I’ve become wiser, and realize that I am strong enough to stand up and fight back coz I still got a lot of fight left in me. So be sure to surround yourself with real people, they maybe few but at least they are real, and remember when no one believes in you and what you can do, those people thinks the other way and will keep supporting you every single day, trust me.

But when God has shaken me, awaken me and made me realise that I’m better than the person that I am during those times, I was so eager to step out of the darkness right away, slowly I was standing up from the ground, and thankfully He gave me a chance to move on and move forward because God loves me and many people loves me starting from my parents, family, friends, loved ones and the real people in my life. Despite the fact that I failed God several times and hurt Him with my wrongdoings, He never left me, and from that point on my relationship with God just got better and stronger. And now, whatever earthquakes that shakes my ground (coz I still am going through things in life), I keep reminding myself to hold on tight and keep my focus on what I should do, and recover slowly but surely and not to dwell on the things that’s pulling me down. I have learned to let go of what had hurt me in the past and let God handle it for me instead from today and the future. Remember, God knows better and He knows what’s best for me and for all of us, so when He says NO take it politely and move forward, and when He says WAIT be patient and trust Him, because at the right time He will say YES and give it to you because that is the BEST time, Marke My Word.

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Our Past, is worth Remembering

Have you forgotten your past already? And should we really throw it away (all the memories) and never look back? Well not all, because there are things and memories in the past that until today we should never forget. Just like the place we visited in Toronto, Ontario, Canada which is called Black Creek Pioneer Village which is an open-air heritage museum. It gives you an idea or flashback on how or what rural Ontario looked like in the early 19th century. As a tourist, it was a wonderful experience to see the old houses, 19th century buildings and other structures.

Aside from that, I was also amazed with there historical re-enactments and visiting artisans. The pioneer village also features a barn, the original Stong Family farm buildings, water powered grist-mill, general store, blacksmith’s shop along with over 10 other trades buildings, and other structures.

One more thing about Black Creek Pioneer Village, majority of the buildings were moved from their original sites like the Halfway House and Mennonite Meeting House and some was re-built on site. Aside from the buildings and houses and other structues, we were also greeted by the sheeps who was with their shepherd that gave us insights as well.

Therefore, I believe NOT ALL in our past should be forgotten because without it we will not be able to see where the present came from and be able to innovate for the future. Even if our past have hurt us so bad that tore us apart and made us doubtful of ourselves, we should never forget. Because it’s part of growing up and moving forward, and learning from the past allows us to be better at present, and makes us stronger and firmer to whatever lies ahead, Marke My Word.

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