Break Down… Then Break Through

I remember someone telling me in the past that, “It’s ok to break down some times because we are only humans.” And as for me, I can really attest to that because personally, I’ve really broken down several times due to problems either emotional, financial, spiritual, etc. But you might be wondering as to what keeps me going? Well, there are several factors which I’m going to share with all of you.

My Faith in God

One huge factor that really fuelled me to keep fighting and moving forward is my faith. As a Christian, I keep reminding myself that I have to be stronger than my fears and problems and that my Father in Heaven is bigger than all my struggles in life. Is it hard? definitely! It’s tough fighting your thoughts because it makes you doubt, and you tend to worry more. It’s hard getting over your fears because it makes you question if you can really do it. And it’s tough finding solution to your problems because your mind is corrupted with all of that negativity that’s going on in your life. But like what I said, I’m thankful that I was equipt with God’s word in my mind and my heart, that in times like I feel like giving up, I talk to God and begged him to help me get over my thoughts and fight it. I must admit, I’ve felt like giving up several times but I’m always reminded by God that you can give up and feel down, but you shouldn’t quit and just keep standing. The fact that you are alive, breathing and see the sun when you wake up in the morning is a blessing and a great reminder that we should keep fighting because we still have a purpose in this earth we are living in. That’s why during the dark times in my life and when I break down, I talk to God and share with Him what i’m going through at that moment and seek for enlightenment and motivation to keep going and He never fails. And with that, I can say that I am blessed to know God with the help of Achi Gigi Rios, my afternoon devotion leader, who taught me more about God and lead me to Christianity because she guided me and my friends everytime we have our afternoon devotion once a week, and she makes sure to inspire us and answer our questions to further strengthen our faith, and aside from that, Achi Gigi also gave me my very first bible which I still have. So if you’ll ask me, it is very important to strengthen our faith in God by attending church service every Sunday and listen to God’s word and also read the Bible to have your own quiet time with Him which can develop your relationship with God.

My Family

I remember the time that I was going through depression and I was really at lost, I don’t even know who talk too and who can help me in my problems. But God was amazing because He redirected me to my core which is my family, particularly my mom. She just lends her shoulder to me one morning and I felt like my problem was solved right away because I have her by my side and I know that I will be able to surpass whatever it is that’s causing my depression. She just told me to find my niche and be able to find that happiness within me again. My mom just inspired me to stand up and try again, when I was at that point in my life that I want to give up and was totally broken, but she challenged me and motivated me to keep fighting and just move forward. That’s when I realize how important it is for us to treasure our family and have constant communication with them because in times of troubles or during tough times they will be there and they will help you no matter what because they are your family. So never be afraid or be shy to be open with your family because when others are gone or maybe left you, they won’t leave you because they are there for you, forever.

My Friends

In life, you will meet people who will stand by you and stick with you like a brother or sister and they are your friends. And I am truly blessed to have a lot of them in my life, maybe not all of them are as close as the others but definitely, I treasure all of my friends. During my depression period, I actually stayed away from my friends because I don’t want them to see my lowest point and I don’t want them to feel that I am not doing well at that time. But like what I said, they stick closer like a true sibling that’s why when I wasn’t really doing well some of them felt it and comforted me during those time. They also respected my silence because I really don’t want to share my problems or what I am going through and just stayed with me and cheered me up and motivated me to keep fighting. Some even went the extra mile to take me out when I was ready to go out and mingle again because honestly at that point I wasn’t ready to face anyone and I can’t even talk without crying that’s why I just kept quiet. But one thing that I am thankful for to my friends is that they stayed with me through good times and even the bad times that’s why I am very much grateful to have them in my life. But remember, not all people in your life are true and real so be sure to choose your friends properly, make sure that they influence you by bringing out the best and the good in you and not the other way around, and make sure that when you finally have those real friends in your life treasure them because they are rare and hard to find.

What’s my point:

So why did I share about my faith in God, my family, and my friends, well because they played a huge part in my life especially during the tough times and that’s why I kept going and never give up. In this crazy world, we are living in we may be pre-occupied with a lot of stuff that distracts us and allows us to question why is this happening to me? why do I have to carry this burden? why am I being punished despite the fact that I am doing good things in my life? and a lot more questions that go through our minds. But remember this, “God gives the toughest battles to his strongest soldiers” Matthew 5:10. So instead of giving up right away, don’t be afraid to break down and cry coz that’s normal and it is ok not to be ok at times we are only human. Surviving trials is the best test of our faith in God because we never forget His promise that He will never leave us nor forsake despite our shortcomings and our failures because God loves us all. We may not understand it now but remember that all of this will end someday and we will reap the rewards if we stand strong in our faith and that’s why we have our family to be with us during those times that we can’t figure out on how to resolve our problems, and we also have our friends to whom we can share too and seek help if needed but let’s not forget that they have their own trials too so if they begged off to help us accept it and respect them. And never ever lose hope because we will all have our time to shine and be able to savor the success God has prepared and destined for each and every one of us. Just be patient, Marke My Word.

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When They Say You Can’t, Show Them That You Can

Hello there readers, how are you all doing? I hope that you are all doing great just like me. It’s been a week since I was able to write about my last blog which is “Shoe Them What You Got”, and I’ve been busy since that day. I’m glad to be able to write again and maybe inspire some of you not just in my home country the Philippines but also all over the world, let me show it to you.

Was there a time in your life that you doubted yourself because someone told you that you cannot do it? Or maybe you lose your self-esteem because you failed on your first try to do something that you love doing, which made you stop from trying again? Does it end there for you or should you try again some other time? Well, take it from me, you shouldn’t give up on the first try, second, third or even more, because it shouldn’t end there, you know why? Let me explain further and share my personal experience.

Always be positive just like a proton. Yes, that’s so true, we should always be optimistic despite failing and it shouldn’t stop us from moving forward and to try again. Why? Because you will never know your capabilities, your strengths, and even your weaknesses if you give up right away. Failing should just challenge us and not make us quit. It is through this unnecessary situation that we will be able to learn from our mistakes in life, it is through failure that we will be able to discover new things about ourselves, and through this we gain confidence.

I remember, there was a time I doubted myself from reaching my dreams because I wasn’t able to go to my dream school which is Ateneo or La Salle. Since I was young, I told myself that I should only get into these two schools when I reached college, but sadly I wasn’t able to do so. Did it stop me from reaching my dreams? No, because while I was studying at Centro Escolar University in Manila where I took up A.B. Mass Communication major in Broadcast, a professor told us that in real life or outside world, where you graduated shouldn’t define who you are and what you can do. It’s your skills, your knowledge, and your passion that will prove your worth to any company that would accept you.

Was it easy peasy? Sadly No, because in reality especially here in the Philippines, applying for a job even if you are a graduate of a 4-year course isn’t a walk in the park, just like what I personally experience. I remember the time when I applied for a job at a company that I dreamed of getting into because who wouldn’t want to fly for free right? Well, going back to my experience, the only reason I remember that they told me why I wasn’t accepted, alongside other applicants was that I am overweight or fat for the position. Ouch right? But I didn’t apply for an F.A. position (I wish) it is only for a ground position or office-based, but I was judge right away because of what I look like and not what I can do. But instead of dwelling on that not so good experience, it motivated me to be better physically and mentally and molded me to who I am now Mark Joven version 3.2 (coz I’m now 32 years old).

So, maybe you are all wondering if I end up having the job that I really wanted, my answer is NO. I really wanted to work in a media company or in an advertising company, but due to lack of job vacancies during the high time of my applications, I end up just finding a job. Well, I’m a little bit disappointed because I wanted to prove to everyone around me that I can reach my dreams despite the fact that I wasn’t able to enter into my dream school/university and prove my professor right that no matter what school you end up with and finish your studies, you can reach your dream job and company. But after several years of working in small companies, after several job applications, after several job offers, and after several transfers to different companies, I realized something that if opportunities that you like don’t knock on you, do not be discouraged.

Maybe you are destined to do bigger things, maybe you are meant for a different path, and maybe you should be the one who should create your own opportunity, not just for yourself but also for others who needed some motivation and encouragement. What am I trying to point out? Well, I mean create your own opportunity, start your own business, maybe you can also do a partnership with your family or loved ones, or maybe try to build your own career in different platforms such as social media or other multimedia, there’s a lot of them nowadays. And it’s all up to you! And when others tell you that you can’t because you are just like this and you’re just like that, and you should just keep yourself in a box, prove them wrong. Show them that you can do it and you will do it, not for them but for those who believe in you and your capabilities, because you are special and you are more than what you are right now. Don’t let anyone look down on you and what you can do, because they don’t know you and they can’t judge you. Don’t let them and never allow them to belittle you because they will succeed and you will be defeated, instead prove them wrong and show them what God has given you, i’m talking about your skills and talents, you have your own calling and purpose, just keep looking and you will find your niche, Marke My Word.

Just want to share what I am currently doing, just you guys are interested, I am working for a private company, managing my small business Joven’s Oven, I am a Sunday School teacher at Grace Christian Church of the Philippines, I write blogs (hopefully soon do my vlogs), I do some hosting of gatherings and events, and my favorite of them all which I hope can be my “job” or someone can hire me to do it regularly and get paid, is to travel the Philippines and the world. Please, can someone hire me to do that? hehe

Get Knocked Down…Fight Back Gently

Hello again everyone! It feels so good to write a blog because it’s one way, for me, to release all the stress away. At the same time it is my way of giving back, by inspiring others through my personal experience in good times and bad times and how I get through it all. So I hope you can spread the word about my blog and follow me, leave a comment (good and bad are welcome), and your thoughts as well, thank you. So let me start and fight back! 🙂

Is fighting back good or bad? Well, it depends on the reason why you are doing it, that’s just my opinion. Because there are times in our lives that we are hit badly with problems and situations that triggers us to our limits. How do we react? How do we get even? Should we feel down? I’m pretty sure that all of us will have a different way of taking this situation, and also have our own ways of handling it. But of course what I’m gonna share is something I experienced personally and how I handled the situation and fought back.

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During a time in my life that I nearly lost everything I have (monetary), and no one knew about it because I never told anyone, coz why should I felt it’s not worth sharing. Aside from that, no one felt that I have a problem because despite my current situation you will never see it in my face and in my actions. I guess I’m a pretty good actor right? Want to see my acting skills? I encourage you to visit my Tiktok account, see my videos and you be the judge how good I am haha (Tiktok: marky_joven). But kidding aside, I never told anyone because I’m the cheerful person everyone knows, I’m the happy pill that cracks jokes most of the time, I’m the optimistic guy who sees the good in the bad, and I’m the problem solver to anyone who knows me. So during the time that I was, and at times that I still am facing troubles, I try to find solution and keep it to myself, but one thing I’m sure of and that is I am never alone, which I constantly remind myself. Because I know that my FAITH is bigger than my fears and problems, and I hold on to God’s promise to trust in Him that He will not leave me nor forsake me and He will help me get through it.

So when I was facing adversity, I made sure to hold on to God’s promise and His word was my strength and my motivation to keep moving forward and never stumble.

I must admit during the time that I was knocked down with problems because I was blinded with superficial love, which I thought would complete me, but I was wrong. Yes, I was wrong, because the cause of my fall eventually neglected me as if I’m no one, how sad right? That’s life, and my advice, learn not to expect that promises will be fulfilled because in the end you will just be left hanging by the thread. (Boom! hehe) Maybe for the person or people who made those promises already thought in their lazy mind that they made you a promise already, and it will be too much for them to fulfill it, and on our end let’s not be abusive to think and expect them to make those promises come true.

But going back, because I reached the point that I lost everything and I was already doubting myself that I can still stand up from where I am that time. It was really tough, because I don’t want anyone to know about my situation and let others feel that there’s something wrong, because I was acting brave and I wanted to be alone. I totally forgot that I have my parents, my family, my friends, loved ones and other real people in my life that doesn’t need anything from me to love me back and see my importance. But those people who used me, those just who needs me and recognise me and my importance when they need something, well they never care with what’s happening, which broke my heart. But I’m still thankful to them because of what they did to me I’ve become wiser, and realize that I am strong enough to stand up and fight back coz I still got a lot of fight left in me. So be sure to surround yourself with real people, they maybe few but at least they are real, and remember when no one believes in you and what you can do, those people thinks the other way and will keep supporting you every single day, trust me.

But when God has shaken me, awaken me and made me realise that I’m better than the person that I am during those times, I was so eager to step out of the darkness right away, slowly I was standing up from the ground, and thankfully He gave me a chance to move on and move forward because God loves me and many people loves me starting from my parents, family, friends, loved ones and the real people in my life. Despite the fact that I failed God several times and hurt Him with my wrongdoings, He never left me, and from that point on my relationship with God just got better and stronger. And now, whatever earthquakes that shakes my ground (coz I still am going through things in life), I keep reminding myself to hold on tight and keep my focus on what I should do, and recover slowly but surely and not to dwell on the things that’s pulling me down. I have learned to let go of what had hurt me in the past and let God handle it for me instead from today and the future. Remember, God knows better and He knows what’s best for me and for all of us, so when He says NO take it politely and move forward, and when He says WAIT be patient and trust Him, because at the right time He will say YES and give it to you because that is the BEST time, Marke My Word.

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Our Past, is worth Remembering

Have you forgotten your past already? And should we really throw it away (all the memories) and never look back? Well not all, because there are things and memories in the past that until today we should never forget. Just like the place we visited in Toronto, Ontario, Canada which is called Black Creek Pioneer Village which is an open-air heritage museum. It gives you an idea or flashback on how or what rural Ontario looked like in the early 19th century. As a tourist, it was a wonderful experience to see the old houses, 19th century buildings and other structures.

Aside from that, I was also amazed with there historical re-enactments and visiting artisans. The pioneer village also features a barn, the original Stong Family farm buildings, water powered grist-mill, general store, blacksmith’s shop along with over 10 other trades buildings, and other structures.

One more thing about Black Creek Pioneer Village, majority of the buildings were moved from their original sites like the Halfway House and Mennonite Meeting House and some was re-built on site. Aside from the buildings and houses and other structues, we were also greeted by the sheeps who was with their shepherd that gave us insights as well.

Therefore, I believe NOT ALL in our past should be forgotten because without it we will not be able to see where the present came from and be able to innovate for the future. Even if our past have hurt us so bad that tore us apart and made us doubtful of ourselves, we should never forget. Because it’s part of growing up and moving forward, and learning from the past allows us to be better at present, and makes us stronger and firmer to whatever lies ahead, Marke My Word.

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Desolation turned Delightful

2017, the year that challenged me the most in totality. The year when I said the words to myself and to God, “I give up” because I felt everything isn’t going my way, when everything seems falling apart, the time that I’m against all odds, it was a moment when I almost lost everything I have, and it’s the time when I got fooled by people whom I mistakenly trust. Indeed it was a tough year particularly in the month of June of 2017, when I’m at the point of giving up. There was a moment where in a week everyday something wrong is happening. It started on a Sunday when I got a call from my credit card provider and I was informed that my credit card got fraud (but until this day, the amount wasn’t returned yet, BPI hello!). Then the following day, Monday, I used my debit card and the money transacted was deducted in my card but the cashier it wasn’t approved (thank you BDO for returning the money), then Tuesday, the food orders have to be cancelled because a problem was encountered with the sauce, then Wednesday I had a problem at work and almost cause me my job, then Thursday I got fooled by a person and took away some of my money which was borrowed. Imagine all those things happening day after day after day in just one week, how would you feel right? Of course, I am only human and I was really hurt in all aspect and I just ask God, why me? why now? but instead of turning my back on Him, I kept my trust and faith in Him and just kept quiet about it, and talk to no one but only to God. Then when I realise I have to share it with someone with me there was only one person that I want to go to at that moment and share what I’m going through, it was my mom. She was the one that came on top of my mind, aside from God, because I know she will not judge me, she will not hate me and I know my mom knows better than me.

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It was a moment that I leaned on her shoulder one morning while we are having a breakfast, and she whispered to my ears, “everything will be ok”. She advised me to stand tall and just refocus in everything that I am doing because she knew that I am better than that and I deserve better as well. She was my source of strength and she was my inspiration. And I also remember that she told me the quote “God never allows pain without a purpose” and from there she challenged me to find my niche, find my strength and find something that will make me happy.

And one thing that really makes me happy is making my mom and my family happy, they are my priority at that moment, because no matter what happens to you in your life, the people who will be behind your back 100% or even 200% will be your family. You can always, as in always run to them in good times and even the bad times, they will be supporting you all the way, that’s aside from your real friends of course who stayed with me as well.

Joven’s Oven
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Going back to my “new purpose” and finding my “niche”, I re-discover my love for cooking. And since my family appreciates food, I started cooking for them, with my fave dishes like baked macaroni and spaghetti, and from there I learned on how to do lasagna. Aside from cooking, I started baking, even with an oven I was able to baked a chocolate cake by just steaming it. Then I also baked banana cake and to my surprise my family enjoyed it. I never knew that I had it in me, so to further enhance my new skills and new love I bought an oven and from there I started baking and cooking some more. And when I was ready to go out again, when I was able to step out of my room already, I met with friends again and let them try what I am currently cooking and baking. And one of my closest and best person in my life, my friend Marci told me, “why not make this a business? even for just the upcoming Christmas season.” So that was the time my small business started, Joven’s Oven, it made me refocus my life, it made me realise that I still have a purpose. And by cooking and baking, I forgot that I am going through something, wherein the past few months I was already giving up but thank God through my mom, my family and my friends, I was able to discover myself again and see the light in the darkness that I am going through and indeed from Desolation it turned into Delightful.

So in times that you feel at lost in your life, remember to always turn your back on people who’s there for you no matter what happens in your life. Remember that God is above it all, that the road may seem so dark and you can’t any light ahead of you, turn on Him and He will never ever forsake you. And it is said in John 13:7 Jesus replied, “You do not realise now what I am doing, but later you will understand.” And knowing God’s promise, just trust Him and believe that good thing will happen at the end of it all, Marke My Word.

I will continue sharing about this topic in my next blog, and if you have your own story to share feel free to collaborate with me and message me, I would love to hear from you as well.

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